Fantasy and Reality
I came across this short video and wanted to share it with you guys. First off… please know that I am absolutely not anti-porn in any way! I love porn! I do prefer a certain style of porn that focuses on real pleasure, where the actors are treated fairly and everyone is genuinely enjoying themselves. On the other side, I really don’t care for the popular “mainstream” style of porn that was popular over the last several decades. This video makes some great points about realities and myths about this most common type of porn.
Check out a related article titled Fantasy, Reality, and the Myth of Real Sex. It makes some good counter arguments to this video, but also doesn’t completely neglect the important points that it makes.
I believe that the self-esteem of many men and women, and possibly even many sex lives were damaged by this popular type of mainstream porn. Considering the common types of people that were cast, the activities that were most common, and the filming techniques used to make this kind of porn, it really isn’t the way most people experience their sexuality. That doesn’t mean that it’s “wrong”, though. It’s entertainment, and that’s okay. The problem is that for many people, porn has often replaced actual sex education. So, really it’s the lack of proper and clear education about sexuality and sexual pleasure, not porn itself.
For me, the bottom line is that there is no “real woman” or “real man”. And there certainly is no “real sex”. There is no right or wrong way to have sex. As long as everyone is having fun, that is all that matters.
Bown-chicka-bown-bown. ;-)