Just about everyone loves kissing! An intimate encounter is usually just not the same without it! It’s PB without the J! Some people even consider it to be more intimate than sex (Pretty Woman – hello?) It’s such an sensual and beautiful thing to share. Of course, that is when it’s done right!
Having a good kisser for a partner can make all the difference! It can be huge turn on, and can make the encounter just that much more enjoyable. On the other side, a bad kisser can be a big turn off.
Unfortunately some folks just don’t have a lot of experience with kissing, or their partners just never told them they were awful kissers. I know that those who are lacking in kissing skills really want to be a good kisser, but they just don’t know how, or simply lack the experience. Luckily it is definitely a skill that can be learned! And practice makes perfect!!
There are tonnes of great articles out there about how to be a good kisser, and to an extent it depends on your personal tastes too. But there are some basic guidelines. Here is one article I chose to share with you that I thought covered all the most important points.
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Be A Better Kisser
Problem #1: Your breath could burn someone’s eyes
I once had the misfortune of kissing a guy whose breath smelled like a cross between garlic bread and sautéed onions. Both delicious to eat, both disgusting to taste secondhand on someone’s breath. Besides being disgusting for sheer olfactory reasons, bad breath also suggests that you have poor hygiene habits. No woman wants to date a guy who can’t take care of himself. And according to a study by evolutionary psychologist Dr. Gordon Gallup, funky breath can also signal that you’re in poor health.
What to do
Besides the obvious, like brushing your teeth twice daily and seeing the dentist every six months, there are things you can do when you know you’re going to plant one on a lady. First off, stay hydrated. A shortage of fluids can lead to dry mouth, which causes bad breath. Says Dr. William DeVizio, a licensed dentist and the Colgate-Palmolive vice-president for dental clinical research, “Bacteria can colonize on your tongue, gums and cheeks, where they promote tooth decay and produce foul-smelling sulfur compounds.”
In addition, you can try a cinnamon-flavored gum. Researchers at the University of Chicago have found that cinnamon produces an antibacterial effect that kills bad breath more effectively than other flavors — even mint.
Problem #2: Being too forceful
Save playing hockey for the ice. Excessive tongue or sucking can be a huge turnoff. You don’t want to be so forceful that she feels like you’re more thorough than her dentist or that her face is being vacuumed. Shoving your tongue down a woman’s throat without any finesse just makes it seem like you’re trying to enact some over-the-top soap-opera kiss. Plus, if you have scruff, you may very well give her rug burn on her face with all that forcefulness.
What to do:
Slow down, cowboy! Kiss her softly and gently, and let the momentum build rather than trying to force the passion to take over immediately. Suck her tongue or lips, but think less like a Dyson and more like sucking on a strawberry. Caress her hair or face (just don’t “paint” stripes on her cheek), and hold her tightly (not too tightly!) to increase the intensity.
Problem #3: You don’t know how to move your tongue
On the opposite end of the spectrum, some guys don’t move their tongue at all. Putting your tongue in her mouth and then leaving it there like a wet fish suggests that you may not be that into her. It also leaves a little something to be desired when it comes to that carnal connection. She may even question whether or not you’re capable of moving in the sack.
What to do:
A little enthusiasm goes a long way. Don’t be shy — get into kissing her. Circle your tongue around hers, suck on it lightly, and keep your lips soft and relaxed. Let yourself go and think about enjoying the experience, and your tongue will naturally do the work.
Problem #4: You slobber like a dog
Excessive saliva is endearing in dogs and babies, but not in men. A little moisture is great, but it doesn’t take much more before she feels like she’s drowning in your spit. The male tendency toward too much saliva may be biological. According to research scientist and author of The Science of Kissing Sheril Kirshenbaum, men pass testosterone through their saliva to women. Why is that? Testosterone stimulates the clitoris, which in turn will make her hornier. Of course you want to get her horny, but you don’t want to overwhelm her.
What to do:
Drink a glass of water beforehand to wash down any surplus saliva. While you’re kissing her, be mindful of what you’re actually doing so you can keep your saliva in check. Try changing up the pace or pulling away briefly before going back for more. Or flick your tongue against hers in between sucking to slow down the spit train.
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So, now that we have covered the basics, here is a pretty good video I found which gives a great demonstration. It actually gave me a tingly feeling and made me a little warm. ;) I especially like when she says “The definition of pleasure is not getting what you want right away!” So true! Enjoy!
Happy Kissing! :) And remember: Practice makes perfect!